Torn between choices

I am feeling pretty rotten today, having torn between 2 choices. Thats all because I am in the position to make a decision, that concerns a large community. Or perhaps I am thinking too much of the consequences of either choices that complicate up the matter?

Well, I think I have no choice. Its something that I could not share outwardly to any tom dick and harry out there, not even my own parents. And yet I am a just an ordinary person with limited experiences and wisdom, that I couldnt handle everything myself single-handedly. I need advices and comments.

But having too many different comments and advices tends to complicate the matter further. Thats why I was torn between the 2 choices. One snr is asking me to put a stop to whatever I am doing now and to leave everything to her and her teacher. Another snr is encouraging me to stand out and confront the matter courageously, for the sake of the community at large. At the same time, the emotional side of me is stopping myself from doing so, because I do not wish to see someone 'destroyed' just because of my doing, even though it may be rightful for me to do so.

I am just too selfish that I do not wish to bear such consequences, plus I do not wish to jeopardise many others of learning chances in future camps/retreats or creating possibilities of tarnishing the reputation of a school. And so what are the downsides of not reporting the matter? I will only see someone walking towards the fire and yet not stopping him, or probably sabotage many others along into the fire. I do not wish to see someone being reborn into an animal, or in even lower realms. I tell myself I need to stop the wrong doings.

Analogy1: If your kid was caught stealing in sch, would you rather the teacher call you up and inform you first, or would you prefer the teacher to hand your child directly to the police? So am i supposed to report the matter directly to the higher authority or am I supposed to do it discreetly to the teacher concerned first?

Analogy2: If you catch a theif outside, are you going to hand him directly to the police or wait to call the theif's parents before deciding? And pls, the person concerned is no longer a kid ok?

Still, its a dilemma for me, despite numerous long phone calls of discussions with my seniors. A jnr kind of reprimanded me for complicating up the matter, and warned me about 'musavada'. Frankly speaking, I am very afraid of breaking the 4th precepts in the process of re-reporting the matter over and over again to those few snrs. As we discuss more, we tend to get more biase against the matter, and hence, whatever I could 'recall' and 'recollect' may not be as accurate as before :(

At first I though it only concerns me, a couple of snrs and jnrs. Now it seems that some "fen yong zhi tu" are trying hard to fight for the case, not just for me but for the sake and well-being of the buddhist community. I appreciate their good intention but i still feel its not right.

Why does the decision lies in me? Someone pls decide for me.