Family Feuds

I was feeling really perturbed last nite. I had a conversation with a friend over msn and it really disturbed me emotionally.

I have known this friend for a few years (lets call her L, but not Lena!). Recently by chance, I found out that her dad is actually the nephew of my aunt's husband. My aunt (my mum's sister) and her husband are living in China. Last evening, I decided to 'acknowledge' her by telling her how her dad and my mum are related. Excitedly, she went to ask her her dad abt it and came back with the f0llowing replies:

L: My dad told me that she is a very notorious woman in the village. She used to ill-treat my dad and his sis.

Me: (feeling puzzled) Erm... you mean who?

L: Your aunt lor!

Me: (feeling upset) Oh... i din know my aunt is such a bad woman...

L: Yeah! But at least she has a v good nephew.

Me: (feeling more disturbed + disgusted) Well, our parents must be good in our eyes right? I feel its jus not right to criticise our elders, isnt it?

Blah blah blah blah blah.........................

I actually know a lot more on her dad and family background, but i didn wanna say them out as its none of my business. I also need to respect the fact that he is my friend's dad, although she didnt show the same respect for me by tactlessly blurting out how bad my aunt is. I am not siding my aunt too as i wasnt around to witness and so i cant comment. But i am jus very shocked and disappointed by my friend's tactlessness and obvious bias towards her own dad. If i were to behave like her, I may say something like this:

'Hey, i know your 3 storey house is actually a rented out, as ur dad has declared bankruptcy a few yrs ago due to a failed business. Your family has been struggling hard to maintain the image as if u are still as rich as before, but actually we all know ur parents r jus putting up a show for everyone to see. A lot of relatives also know ur dad like to make empty promises leh.... very shameful u know?"

Of cos i din say the above out to her. It will be too hurting for her to swallow the truth. But well, I jus wanna vent my frustrations here. The fortunate thing is that my blog is only limited to my small grp of friends and i believe will nv reach her. Morever, no name has been mentioned. And frens, i respect tat u wun go asking around and if u really wanna k now more, pls ask me directly. In the end, i gave my final reply to her:

Me: Perhaps to your dad my aunt was a v notorious and bad lady, but i am sure in her children's eyes, she is a v wonderful and good mother, jus like how u see your own dad.