Promiscuity Vs Adultery

I asked Jane 2 days ago which type of guy he cant stand more:
1) A married guy who keeps A mistress
2) An ummarried guy who lives promiscuosly

Personally, I really cannot stand someone who is married and yet commits adultery. Not that I promote promiscuos behaviour, but I always feel that if you cannot commmit to a single sex partner, then dun get married.

A colleague confessed to me that he enjoys casual sex, and do not wish to commit to anybody. Although the risks of getting HIV is high, at least he doesn hurt anybody with promises and vows - many a times to be broken later. On the other hand, another colleague who is married with kids had an affair with another lady. Her wife found out abt it and is now filing for a divorce. I feel such men are really irresponsible. They are not only sorry to their wife, but to their poor children! Hence my stand is: If you cannot keep to a sex partner, then dun get married/committed to anyone.

I was chatting with a friend 2 days ago when i brought up the topic of 'ghost' - something she has encountered in a buddhist temple yrs ago. I think her encounter has made me realise that these lower beings can too exist in buddhist grounds, even in the presence of the Buddha and other diety statues. It also reminded me that i used to naively think that after placing the buddha statue in my room, my room will be freed from these beings! Haha. All the wrong concepts and mentality.

Something which made me appreciate Buddhism more is that Buddha always preach on using loving kindness to all beings. If by placing buddha statues we can 'chase' or scare away the lower beings, then we are already contradicting the Dharma. Learning the various buddhist chants + sending metta have further reduced my fear for these good brothers.